Marriage, Monogamy and the Gays: Is it really a non-issue? [video]
”With straight people, it’s called affairs or cheating, but with gay people it does not have such negative connotations.”
Colleen Hoff, principal investigator of a study by researchers at San Francisco University that looked at 556 male couples in the Bay Area of California. According to their findings, 50% surveyed have open relationships or at least sex outside of the relationship. The New York Times here takes a broaders look at the issue, interviewing heterosexuals and lesbians. One author thinks that because people are living decades longer than they did just a hundred years ago, that traditional marriage vows apply less and less. (NY Times)
”The gay community — this is just what I hear, they can contradict me — they don’t take monogamy and infidelity the same way the straight community does. They say, if they have an affair that — you know, some one-night stands, whatever it is they get into, even though they are in a committed relationship — they don’t break up the relationship the way straight people do…. I think, it’s a love triangle, maybe…. What I think, is it has to do with procreation, because if a woman and a man are in a realtionship, they have to think about: ‘Well, we’re going to have children. We have to keep the family tight.”’
Joy Behar speaking on her daytime show, The View, about her interview with author and columnist, Dan Savage. Whoopi seemed to disagree, saying her gay men acquaintances are not happy about cheating. Sherri says monogamy is a good form of control, like not overeating. Elizabeth said to be cautions about mathe assertion. (The View / ABC)
What do you think? Do you agree that gay male couples are less concerned with fidelity than heterosexuals? Are lesbians more or less monogamous? Does it matter? And what does talk like this mean for the future of marriage equality?
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